Final Wishes Should be Shared
Final wishes should not be regarded as a topic to be avoided. Most people feel that to talk about death and funerals is a taboo subject. In the same way, people feel very uncomfortable talking about their last wishes.
In actual fact, these discussions can relieve a lot of the stress associated with death and the funeral. It helps those closest to you by making some difficult decisions, when they’re not even convinced the deceased would’ve approved of them.
Knowing your Final Wishes will be Carried Out is Comforting
Many people can’t make up their own minds concerning their own lives, so how much more difficult is it to be responsible for the decisions of someone else. If you care for your family, you’ll make your final wishes known as this can prevent unnecessary strife that comes from everyone trying to make their own plans. Some family members may have issues about whether you are cremated or buried, and you can let them know beforehand exactly what you want.
Some of the reasons to share your final wishes:
- It is important to share your expectations of the type of frail care you may have in mind, your wishes as far as a terminal illness is concerned, and a mental illness such as Alzheimers. How and where do you want to be treated?
- It is also satisfying to oneself to make plans and decisions for after death, knowing that it will make things easier for the family when that time comes.
- The family also feels comforted to know they have arranged the funeral just as the deceased wanted it.
- It gives the family the freedom to celebrate the life of the deceased, and not have the burden of planning the funeral, or puzzling out the estate.
- It eases the pain, grief and shock of the death, not having to discuss and perhaps argue about the wishes of the deceased, especially with regards to the ceremony.
- Your final wishes could be expressed verbally , or written down and kept where a family member can find it at your death.
Specify things such as:
- Care of your pets.
- Your funeral plan and funeral directors of choice.
- The education of children.
- List of friends and their phone numbers to be notified at your death.
- List of insurance policies, bank accounts and other charge accounts and important documents.
- Location of the will, details of a Living Will.
- Organ donation
- Charities you feel strongly about and who you want to donate money to.
- Your minister, funeral service, pall bearers, and other plans for cremation or burial.
- The name and address of your regular doctor for the death certificate and medical history.
These are just some of the things that can be included in one’s final wishes list. Others can be added as you think of them.
Small Wishes – Huge Dividends
Then there are the little things that we often just take for granted, but, to a person with not much time to live, they become very important. For example a short visit to an old friend, or a relative they haven’t seen for some time. Maybe you want one last visit to the sea or the mountains or just to be carried out to sit in the sunshine one last time.
Final wishes can make a big difference to the memories and legacy one leaves behind. Consider making your list – you owe it to your family whom you love so much.
To get a FREE Funeral Cover Quote complete and send the form above the article